When you feel low, you have a choice. Do you broadcast it & spend your time with friends who want to commiserate? Or do you share that you're back, ready to kick ass, & find the friends who will help you get past whatever got you down?
I've learned this lesson many times, most recently in the amazing group of women that have assembled for The Boudoir Body Challenge, each with her own goals to help her feel more comfortable in her own skin.
Last week was the third week of a 12-week challenge. Motivation was high the week leading into the challenge, week 1, & even into week 2. But during week 3, reality set in (am I really willing to make a life change in the way I look at food and exercise or is this just another temporary short-term fix to deprive myself of one of the food groups so I can fit in my jeans this fall?). And life happened (big work projects, family obligations, fill in your own blank). The normally chatty online group was quiet. Fewer inspiring quotes, not as many diet & exercise updates...the board felt like a bit of a ghost town.
But then there was a post that caught my attention, especially after so many of the group's most active members had gone "radio silent" for several days.
"For all the Dr. Seuss fans
I am here
I am here
I am here!
Sorry for the days of darkness
I shall be back on track with stickers and posts tomorrow...
And I refuse to list the dramatic reasons for my absence
They will not conquer this feisty southern gal."
When you are in one of life's valleys, will you post something negative, reflecting the truth of that moment but likely to keep you there longer? OR...will you post something like this feisty southern gal that alerts your friends you are ready not only to start walking up to the next of life's peaks...but you are ready to FLY!?!
Friends who will talk out your valley moments with you are good. But friends who help you defy gravity, climb life's peaks, accomplish more than you ever thought possible...friend who help you FLY...those friends are GREAT! Find out who they are by making statements & asking questions that let them know you're not interested in wallowing in today's valley. You're ready to start tackling tomorrow's peak!